Prolonged Singleness and the Bible: A Study of Tobit Part II

Last month in my blog post entitled, Prolonged Singleness and the Bible: A Study of Tobit  Part I, I provided a summary of the Book of Tobit. I especially related how God pointed me to the book of Tobit when I was single and had lamented to him that although there were women in the Bible that battled infertility, there was no one that ever struggled to get married. He showed me I was wrong....

Prolonged Singleness and the Bible: A Study of Tobit Part I

When I was in my mid-thirties and really struggling with this entire singleness issue, I asked God why no one in the Bible ever struggled to get married? I complained to him that there were several women in the bible who had wrestled with infertility – Sarah, Hannah, and Elizabeth. He saw their pain and performed a miracle, thus enabling each one to bear and birth a child.   ...

The Vocation Awakening

When I was in my thirties and stuck in prolonged singleness, I was desperately afraid that God had called me to the single life. This was compounded by the feedback and responses I would receive from well-meaning people I would speak to about my grief and suffering regarding my desire to be married. The typical, yet painful, reply was, “Maybe you need to accept that God has no one for you,”...

The 12 Dates Club

I recently had a conversation with a woman by the name of Louise who also married later in life. She, too, experienced prolonged singleness and embarked on a journey to find her way out of it to love and marriage. Louise married her husband at the age of 44. We were discussing some of the more practical things a girl can do to help herself out of the single wilderness; the different tips, and...

Valentine’s Day When You Are Single

This weekend is Valentine’s Day when everyone celebrates love with hearts, flowers, and gifts. I can still remember my years of prolonged singleness when I had no one to spend Valentine’s Day with. On the rare occasion that I was dating someone at the time, it unfortunately ended up being a disappointing holiday. It was not until I met my husband that anyone ever truly put the effort into...

Do You Have A Plan?

It is the new year. It is that time when everyone makes new year’s resolutions to better themselves and their life. Perhaps many of the resolutions you made on January 1st may already be broken by the time you are reading this blog post. Nevertheless, it is not too late to develop goals for yourself regarding your desire to get married. It is important to forge a strategy for meeting a...

Wonderful Counselor!

There is no denying it. When you are single and want to be married, it can be a painful and even downright miserable time. That period was for me, anyway. The older I grew older, the more difficult my singleness became. This is because God did not intend for us to be by ourselves. God created human beings in a primordial state of marriage: “Then God said, ‘And now we will make human beings;...

Can The Bible Teach Us to Date? Part I

When I was in my mid-thirties, I started to seek God seriously regarding this marriage issue.  I realized that God really did desire marriage for me, however, he was not going to just plant a spouse on my door and say, “Marry this one!” I was going to have to put myself out there and date. This truly was a stretch for me, pushing the limits of my emotional, physical, and social comfort...

The Blessed Virgin Mary Loves Marriage, Too

When I was single, I desperately prayed for a spouse. I prayed individual prayers and I prayed novenas. I asked St. Jude and St. Rita to intercede for me because I believed my situation was so hopeless and impossible. I prayed novenas to St. Martha and to St. Therese the Little Flower, as I was moved and encouraged by each of their stories. I also sought the assistance of St. Raphael the...

Prolonged Singleness: Are you Stuck in the Single State?

When I was in my mid-thirties and still single, I seriously started to seek God about this marriage issue. I think it was partly because I had just come out of a relationship and was confused as to why it did not work out. Also, I realized there had to be an answer: Did God want people to be married or not? Were some people called by God to just be single? If someone desired marriage and prayed...
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