Can The Bible Teach Us to Date? Part I

When I was in my mid-thirties, I started to seek God seriously regarding this marriage issue.  I realized that God really did desire marriage for me, however, he was not going to just plant a spouse on my door and say, “Marry this one!” I was going to have to put myself out there and date. This truly was a stretch for me, pushing the limits of my emotional, physical, and social comfort...

The Blessed Virgin Mary Loves Marriage, Too

When I was single, I desperately prayed for a spouse. I prayed individual prayers and I prayed novenas. I asked St. Jude and St. Rita to intercede for me because I believed my situation was so hopeless and impossible. I prayed novenas to St. Martha and to St. Therese the Little Flower, as I was moved and encouraged by each of their stories. I also sought the assistance of St. Raphael the...

Prolonged Singleness: Are you Stuck in the Single State?

When I was in my mid-thirties and still single, I seriously started to seek God about this marriage issue. I think it was partly because I had just come out of a relationship and was confused as to why it did not work out. Also, I realized there had to be an answer: Did God want people to be married or not? Were some people called by God to just be single? If someone desired marriage and prayed...

Passion of Hope: The Real Via Dolorosa

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines hope as a desire with expectation of obtainment or fulfillment. And this is exactly what I had: a desire to get married. A hope to meet someone I would connect with and to get married.  I had this hope all through my twenties, my thirties, and my forties. By my mid-thirties, however, this desire no longer felt like hope. It had begun to feel like...

Finding the Truth of My Calling to Marriage

It was the year 2004 and I was several months shy of turning 36 years old. I had just come out of an unrealistic, but in my mind hopeful relationship. During its four-month lifespan, I was happy and not lonely, excited for my future for the first-time in a very long while. I experienced a renewed sense of energy that had been missing.  When the relationship ended, so did all of these. ...