The Blessed Virgin Mary Loves Marriage, Too

When I was single, I desperately prayed for a spouse. I prayed individual prayers and I prayed novenas. I asked St. Jude and St. Rita to intercede for me because I believed my situation was so hopeless and impossible. I prayed novenas to St. Martha and to St. Therese the Little Flower, as I was moved and encouraged by each of their stories. I also sought the assistance of St. Raphael the...

Prolonged Singleness: Are you Stuck in the Single State?

When I was in my mid-thirties and still single, I seriously started to seek God about this marriage issue. I think it was partly because I had just come out of a relationship and was confused as to why it did not work out. Also, I realized there had to be an answer: Did God want people to be married or not? Were some people called by God to just be single? If someone desired marriage and prayed...

God Loves Marriage: How Come? Part III

The wedding feast of the Lamb. It is the ultimate repast, the climax of our faith, what the faithful look forward to when this world is over. Revelation 19:5-9 describes it as follows: “Then there came from the throne the sound of a voice, saying, “Praise our God, all his servants and all people, both great and small, who have reverence for him!” Then I heard what sounded like a crowd,...

God Loves Marriage: How Come? Part II

St. Paul writes to the church in Ephesians Chapter 5, addressing the relationship between a husband and wife.  He goes on to compare the relationship between a husband and a wife – marriage – to the relationship between Christ and his church. Let’s take a deep dive into the entire scripture passage: "Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it....

God Loves Marriage: How Come? Part I

We know that marriage is important to God because the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) indicates that it has been given the dignity of a sacrament by Jesus Christ (§1601). In addition, throughout scripture marriage is referred to not only as having its own significance, but as mirroring the relationship between Christ, the bridegroom and his church, the bride (see Ephesians 5:21-23). I...

Desiring Marriage: What Are We Really Talking About Here?

Desiring Marriage: Just What Are We Really Talking About Here? I believe that most of us desire marriage. I also believe this desire is good and right and God-given. Having struggled into my early forties to see my own desire for marriage fulfilled, I want to encourage others that hope can be found.  As such, I think it would be a good idea to discuss what I mean when I use the word...

Passion of Hope: The Real Via Dolorosa

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines hope as a desire with expectation of obtainment or fulfillment. And this is exactly what I had: a desire to get married. A hope to meet someone I would connect with and to get married.  I had this hope all through my twenties, my thirties, and my forties. By my mid-thirties, however, this desire no longer felt like hope. It had begun to feel like...

Finding the Truth of My Calling to Marriage

It was the year 2004 and I was several months shy of turning 36 years old. I had just come out of an unrealistic, but in my mind hopeful relationship. During its four-month lifespan, I was happy and not lonely, excited for my future for the first-time in a very long while. I experienced a renewed sense of energy that had been missing.  When the relationship ended, so did all of these. ...